it’s not about them right now — it’s all about you. 2. Treat Yourself When your partner has an affair 杨焕宁严重违纪 王毅与日外相通话

Relationships When your partner has an affair, it can feel like your whole relationship has been chucked out with the trash. You’re furious, upset, and feel completely betrayed. But you can learn how to deal with infidelity, and put the pieces back together again. These 4 steps will help you when you’re coping with infidelity: 1. Focus On You Right now, you’re shell-shocked. Your mind is whirling with thoughts about your partner. But you need to reign those thoughts in and instead focus on yourself. You need to deal with your hurt feelings, seek out some support, cry, and read up on coping strategies. Remember, it’s not about them right now — it’s all about you. 2. Treat Yourself When your partner has an affair, it can leave you feeling really, really bad about yourself. You probably wonder if there’s something wrong with the way you look. Let me tell you right now — there isn’t. Your appearance has nothing at all to do with why your spouse cheated on you. That said, now is a good time to do something that will make you feel more attractive, inside and out. It doesn’t have to be extreme…don’t go shaving your head or getting crazy tattoos (at least not right now!) Just do something that makes you feel good about how you look. You deserve it. 3. Rediscover Your Passions Is there something you’ve always wanted to do, but haven’t gotten around to? Do it now! Set aside time out of your busy day to focus on an activity you love. It doesn’t have to be anything overly exciting, like cliff jumping (but if that’s your thing, go for it). Repaint the living room. Take up Pilates. Take a photography class. Call up some pals you haven’t seen in awhile. Sit down and make a list of all the things you’ve ever wanted to do, no matter how large or small they are. What on that list could you go and do today? Pick something, and go do it! Yes, I know you don’t feel like it…but do it anyway. If you wait around until you feel like doing something, guess what…you’re never going to do it. If you’re really struggling, pick one little wee thing, like going for coffee with someone. Baby steps are fine. 4. Hit The Town When is the last time you took yourself somewhere special? Go someplace you love, even if it’s just you and a beer in your backyard. Sometimes, the fear of being lonely is the most challenging part, so take the fear out of it. Practice. Learn that you CAN be alone without being lonely. It’s ok to go to the museum solo. If you want to confront your cheating spouse, you need to do it from a place of strength and confidence — not fear or anxiety. You want to be as calm and controlled as possible when you talk to them. If you follow these steps one by one, you’re well on your way to mending your broken heart and healing after an affair. Now you’re ready to really talk productively to your spouse. But before you do, you need a strategy. There is a right way and a wrong way to handle the conversation, and the choices you make and the words you say can make the difference between making up, and breaking up. If you confront them with blame and anger, chances are you’ll be met with defensiveness and justifications — and the chances of saving your marriage will be slim to none. About the Author: 相关的主题文章:

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